The other day I had a man tell me that my hair looked better when it was up (lol ok bye). I’ve been rocking my natural curly/wavy hair lately. It makes me feel beautiful and different and I want other girls out there to see me wearing my hair natural and feel as if they can be comfortable enough to do it too. While I do have really lovely hair (humble brag) it has been called wild, frizzy, BIG, and unruly before. Growing up, most of my friends had stick straight hair. It was “the style.” So… I would get up 2 hours early to straighten my long, luscious locks. Because that was the kind of hair a pretty girl had.
During this time and for a long time after, I felt the need to dress a certain way. Never wear sweats. Always be presentable. Short skirts are great but don’t make them too short or you might be called a whore. Certain brands were expected too. At the time they were, Abercrombie & Fitch or Hollister. My parents did the absolute best they could for my brother and I but let’s be honest… that shit was way too expensive. In order to fit in I would go to the goodwill store and find second-hand, brand-named clothes. I was fine with it of course but that’s not how a 14 year old girl should shop… No one needs brand-named clothes. Just wear whatever the hell you want to wear.
I’m in my mid-20’s now and the ingrained beauty standards are a WHOLE different level of Instagram horror. Small waist, large tits, peach for an ass, clear skin, plump lips, big eyes with big eyelashes, contoured face. To be honest though, women seem to push these beauty standards onto other women rather than men pushing this onto women. We as women tend to care WAY more about opinions of other women than we do men. It’s kind of ridiculous, don’t you think? Now, there are many people out there who say they do it for themselves. I think that’s true to a point. Every once in a while I love to get all dolled up but let’s be real… I’m also doing it to show off. Because it feels good to look good and know that the people you walk past, think you look good too.
Let me be clear. I’m not saying that having any of those features mentioned above or striving for those features is a bad thing. I’m just saying that if you don’t look like that or don’t feel like trying to look like that, then let yourself be. Let yourself be who YOU want to be. These ingrained beauty standards are here but if we want to reach our true potential of being our complete selves… then we have to find ways to say eff you to the Barbie standard.
Be you. Be authentic. If you want to look a certain way, then go for it. But if you don’t, then don’t. Do you, baby boo.
All of this being said, my #everylittlebit of myself that I love today is my hair. My wild, frizzy, unruly hair that makes me stand out. What’s your #everylittlebit?